What Do You Think?

[Crocus]

On Sky News there's a report of a dr. who had an affair, got the girl pregnant within a month after they started to see each other, and then tried to spike her drink which could "help" aborting the baby.

There's few things bothering me regarding this:

1. He's a married man.
2. Cheated on his wife.
3. Surely they must've known that she might fall pregnant?
4. Being a dr. it seems he knew what to do to abort his baby.
5. What about his wife?
6. Many comments coming in from males now says it's the girl's fault, - and
probably the "best" of all and according to them -
7. SHE didn't have any morals! What about men's morals then?

[dragonfly]

I think they are both to blame: he is a married man and she went with him knowing he was a married man. The fact that he abused his privilage as a doctor appalls me plus the fact that he could kill his unborn child without the consent of the mother otherwise it would have been like an abortion. I feel sorry for his wife and children.

[dinger]

I have just read the doctors wife is supporting him and standing by him . I think a good kick up rear and to be told on your bike would be my response . Who would even want a man like that. I consider he and the pregnant girlfriend are equally to blame neither had any morals.

[Crocus]

I totally agree with you Dinger (on the morals), but the guys in the comments on Sky News mostly said that it was the girl's fault, she had no morals and that she tricked him.
Just for the sake of the viewpoint on morals on the Sky News' commentaries, why was this dr. such a coward then to "fall" for her? If he had such high morals, he wouldn't have been in this situation, but he didn't act responsible, is now in trouble and conveniently the woman is the only one at fault.

[jazzactivist]

Money talks, unfortunately. It sounds as if this unscrupulous man's wife is staying with him because he has a good income on which she is dependent, as there would be no other reason for her to do so. I think that the couple are both at fault, but the man more so as he is the one who is married and he is the one who spiked his lover's drink to try to create a miscarriage. Hopefully, the other woman will have learnt her lesson and will look for a more honest, unattached, man in future.

[Crocus]

My feelings too Jazz as he is much older than the girl it seems, and being a dr. one would expect that he should've known there could be consequences. He didn't take precautions for her not getting pregnant, and now he doesn't want to face the consequences as well. Apparently it was a one night stand.

[dinger]

I think he should be struck off as a doctor.

[eleanor2]

it saddens me to hear this.the moral values of people seem to be tumbling down.in my eyes they have both acted immorally.but for a dooctor to spike a womans drink to bring on abortion is intolerable.why did he do it.didnt he want financial responsibility.is wife as stood by him.so she would have done if this girl had the baby .how immoral can one be.

[Gentian]

Also there is now a child as a result of this liaison.

[souter girl]

And to think we despair of our young people's behaviour - what sort of example are we setting? All parties concerned need to grow up and take some responsibilities for their actions.

[Crocus]

What I would like to know is why some men have affairs left, right and centre and when something goes wrong, or like in this case a "baby gets in the way" , suddenly it's the woman's fault, her problem, she the only one not having morals. She definitely didn't tango all by her lonesome, but conveniently that is now "forgotten", and doesn't matter at all. x

[dragonfly]

They are both to blame but the one who is married is more at fault.

[Crocus]

I agree that they are both to blame DF, but I've decided to put this thread on because many men who commented on this story on Sky News was totally against the woman, said she tricked him, she was the one with no morals, and all kinds of other stuff, while in the meantime this dr. was married and cheated on his wife, so where was his morals? It actually annoyed me that men can say this if they know very well that they are just as much at fault. xx

[jazzactivist]

It amazes me that some men, and some women too, still think that way, crocus - that it is always the woman's fault. We once had an elderly neighbour who lived on her own and she had never married but been the mistress of a married man for 50 years until he died. When he died, even though she loved him very much, she couldn't even go to his funeral as his children blamed her for the affair that had lasted all of those years. What a wasted life.

[Crocus]

Do you think it can be a 'guilty' feeling Jazz, or perhaps even an insecure feeling which cause them to blame it all on the woman?

Regarding the neighbour, how could his children blame her for the affair if their dad was in this affair for 50 years too?

[dragonfly]

I could forgive my hubby for an affair but I could not stay with him if it still carried on as I could not willingly share him. I would not stay with someone who prefered someone else.

[jazzactivist]

I think that it must be 'guilty feelings' that make men blame women for affairs, crocus. you know what they say "Look at yourself before you criticise others".

I watched a bit of a documentary on polygamy last night (I think that it has been on before) and I must say that I don't think that I would mind too much if my OH had another woman, so long as she was clean and I got on with her. I can imagine that two or more women sharing household life etc might get on quite well together, and at least you could be sure of getting the whole bed and duvet to yourself for some of the week! The ones on the programme seemed to be quite close friends and didn't mind sharing. I couldn't be bothered with more than one man in my life, though. Imagine that - two or more men not knowing where the clean sheets are kept and forgeting to put the dog out...

[Crocus]

Oh goodness no thanks, one is quite enough! I don't think I will be able to share my husband with another woman ..... it will have to be either her or me. xx