jazzactivist
29-12-2008, 04:37 PM
Hi all. At a family lunch on Boxing Day it turned out that one of our sisters-in-law works in the same office as an old school friend of my OH. We were pleased to make the connection, and said that she had actually been in email contact with OH for quite a while and she and her OH and child had come up to visit us last summer. OH's family were really surprised and asked if I didn't mind him being friendly with women. I don't, and my OH has quite a lot of women friends, married and single, whom he goes out with and also stays with from time to time. I have also always had male friends. We have both always done work that involves going out alone and staying away at conferences etc with colleagues of both genders. My OH and I think that it is really important to have some friends who are just your own, as well as mutual friends, and we never even think about what gender they are. It turns out that OH's brothers and sisters-in-law check one another's mobile phones and bills, and would never go out for a meal or drink alone with someone of the opposite sex. This seems a bit immature to us, and not a very strong relationship. But what do you think? Would you feel odd about your OH going out with a woman or man friend, staying at heir house or going on holiday with them? Would you do it?