stress

[eleanor2]

i have suffered badly with stress in the past.but the last year as been quite good for me.so i have been a lot more happy go lucky.the last week however has been very stressful.just so much going on out of my comfort zone.my biggest stress my youth club practising songs and reading s for a special carol by candle light at church where we were special guests. i worried about everything.then son being so ill .i have had grandson for days.i have been worrying so much about son.i have told myself stop worrying and stressing.how silly it is to worry and stress.i have tried to stop myself getting in stress mode but it got me.wow doesnt it make you miserable and ratty.i even had back ache .i just havnt got good stress control.i was so missy with hubby and moody and negative.it is horrid.now the main stress factors have gone and daughter in law has broke up from work so can look after my son.i feel like a different person this morning.i was laughing with hubby and grandson.hubby says i can tell you are feeling better today.i realise just how awful living under stressful situations can be.long term ones can rob you of who you really are.make you depressed,moody and irritable.i really feel for those under constant stressful situations.when you can step back and look at what stress is doing to you ,the fact that you dont want to stress but it gets you anyway.it is a horrible situation isnt it.

[Rustic Pumpkin]

Stress is absolutely the pits! I don't think anyone understands how adversely it can affect unless they have been affected by it. As you say, one minute you are up, the next down. I do suffer from it, and at this time of year I find it quite horrible as I also get SAD. Two together is not good and I struggle. Even meditating and positive thought process don't help. And like you say, you snap at people and if you are like me that then makes you feel worse. I spend a lot of time either crying or saying sorry these days!

[eleanor2]

arrrrr rustic it is the pits.cus i have been so well.i am realising how stress can sink you so fast.rob you of a happy friendly disposition.make you moody and snappy.yes then i feel bad cus i dont like upsetting anyone.i just wish i had some valerian in.they help me relax into a good sleep.which then helps you start again afresh the next day.i am doing my deep breathing exercises.

[sheddie]

Don't forget you are strong Eeeee and don't forget it. X

[dinger]

I seem to live under permanent stress but think over the years it has made me a much stronger person . I feel every bit of hurt has put another brick in my protective wall which surrounds me. I now try to deal with one day at a time and only one day .x

[eleanor2]

now all the stress factors have gone.i am back to my old self.i just feel for those who have continual stress through illness and famly cares.i think it making you lose sleep is very hard to cope with.your face can take on a mask like look sometimes.i do think positive thinking , deep breathing and relaxation techniques help.

[jazzactivist]

I am sorry to hear how stressful parts of 2008 have been for some of you, and especially at this time of year when all is meant to be festive and bright. I think that you have hit the nail on the head, eleanor, by pointing out how multiple stresses can create a domino effect of worry. However, if one stressor is fixed then the other things don't feel so bad, and you can almost automatically start to fix the others. Rather than waiting for something good to happen, or someone else to step in and help, you can start a good domino effect yourself. I find that the best way to deal with worry is to decide what would be the worst thing that could happen in that situation and work out how you would deal with it. Then you have a plan for the worst case scenario to make you feel more secure, and nothing that actually does happen is likely to be as bad as you imagined so you will start to feel better. Try it, even if you don't feel like it, it does work! Best of luck, Jazz X.

[eleanor2]

you know jazz i heard a psycho therapist saying on the radio.the worst things we all fear will happen never happen.we have to deal with our mindset and fears.i think once stress really gets you tho its so hard to make sense of it and deal with it.