Thank You All

[Healing Hands]

Thank you all for all your support and kind words yesterday. Today I feel a little better and I talked to Ken last night on the phone and this weekend we are going to have a good talk, something that he does ot like doing, but if we get everything out then we both know where we stand. I will also write it down for him to read first then we can discuss the problems that lie in the relationship.

We are going to take Jack for a very long walk in some Ancient woods that are nearby to me. It is the largest yew forest in Western Europe The story goes that they were planted in King Henry VIII time. Also there are about 50 different species of flowering plants and grasses. It is also one of the most important archaeological sites in Southern England as it has 14 ancient monuments, including Bronze Age burial mounds, and as we are both interested in History and the country side I thought it would be the perfect place to go together.

I will just take each day at a time and not rush into anything.

So a very big THANK YOU. Much Love xxxx :)

[eleanor2]

go for it healing hands.life is to short to put up with things that make us unhappy if they can be changed.

[Katelb]

I can't think of a better environment for a discussion in amongst trees and nature in general, very soothing, hope all goes well HH but I'm sure it will.

[JerseyLily]

Hi HH, I do sypathise with the previous problem (other thread) and friends of mine swear by HRT as a cure-all but as I'm wary of HRT as a means to solving the dilemma of onset of the menopause.

On the second parallel, however, I feel personal relationships are just that, and advice on such matters I tend to steer clear of these days. I once suggested a friend ditch a friend / lover for his being too pushy in all aspects of her life (control freak). sShe didn't heed the advice and went ahead by ending our friendship, three years later I heard via other friends that he'd b*ggered off once he was in complete control of her life. Five years later my friend I were reunited by accident of being in the same place at the same time and she confessed all.

That's life, my advice if heeded would have saved a lot of heartache, at the same time I could have been wrong and they might have lived a long and happy life together.

[Serenity]

Hi HH, I'm glad that you're feeling a little better today, hope all goes well at the weekend. x

[Crocus]

Neutral ground is always a better place to discuss problems I think. Like the forest you're planning to go, for instance. I really hope that you can sort things out, whichever way it goes. Best wishes from me xxxx

[lily]

Sounds a lovely place, I've learnt several beautiful places to look for if travelling in other parts of the UK- I hope to visit the TRee Catherdral one day.
I know what you mean Jerseylily, sometimes I think all you can do is be there for fallout time- as in Sheddie's young/old dilemma. We had friends who swapped partners, it was very hard to stay in touch with all 4, 2 married when it seemed such a rebound thing- we kept quiet and it was a disaster-I often wonder if I shoud have said something.

[dinger]

So pleased you are feeling a little better today .Hope you continue to do so.x

[sheddie]

Dear H.H. know it is going to be difficult for you whatever as I think we both know where your heart really lies but it must be difficult for Ken too living in someone elses shadow especially when hubby was so perfect. I suppose you've got to stop comparing in some way and see them as totally different people which they are.Know you'll do what's right for you. love sheddie X