Bladder problems

[bonnie]

:eek: Is it an age thing?

The menopause?

Do men have this problem?

:o My problem started after my stroke at 37years old. I blame that.
There is nothing worst than when you cough or sneeze or even laugh, the old bladder leaks.
I know they advertise things like Tenna lady, but who want to be stuck wearing those 24hours a day. not me. Then you have to make a quick run for it up tp the loo. I have a stairlift and its so slow, i need a jet propellar on it.

Have thought about having a feature well put in the garden and using a piece of hosepipe so i can fill the well without moving off the couch but oh wont go for that.

Seriously i do find this a problem and i know i am not alone.
And men say they have it hard. Bless them.

[dragonfly]

Bonnie I suffered with stress incontinence for years after a major operation until I could face having another operation to put it right. Eventually I had a small operation called a TVT (google it if you want the details) It is keyhole surgery and I was only in hospital for a couple of days although it took about 3 weeks to get back to normal. I think it is a wonderful operation and would recommend it to anyone. It has changed my life, I can now go off for the day without having to plan my visits around toilets and can run and dance again without mishaps.

[dinger]

well Bonnie I was devastated the other morning . I woke up a couple of mornings ago to find the bed was wet . I said to u t the water bottle has leaked it was at the side of me. he took it and shook it twisted it done all sorts and nothing seemed to be leaking . He said I hate to tell you Maz you must have had an accident .I could'nt get over it all day to think I had and could'nt believe I had either. Anyway the night before last we woke up to find the bottom of the bed was soaking just where the water bottle was I then knew it was'nt me at all and was so relieved .again we shook it and done all sorts again then ahh found it was comig from just around the rim . it's a good job I never got burned but I now have two water stains on my lovely new mattress but am so pleased I have been cleared of a crime I never committed. to accuse me of that what a ffffing liberty eh x

[Crocus]

So obviously your water bottle has bladder problems Dinger - put it on some kind of medication methinks........ xx

[bonnie]

Dinger i bet you thought thank goodness it wasn't me.

Dragonfly i will goooooogle TVT, thanks.

I think we all end up with this problem sooner or later, even men do.

[dragonfly]

At the hospital I was told that 1 in 10 women suffer with this problem but won't talk about it which is such a shame as there is a lot that can be done now-a-days.

[Crocus]

Hi DF, I think there are quite a number of things women don't talk about, because they may think only they suffer from this or that or the other and are probably to shy to talk about it. In this way it doesn't get discussed, women "hide" whatever it is bothering them, and they try to carry on with their life. It's so unnecessary and unfair really.

[dragonfly]

I think a lot of women are shy Crocus and don't discuss embarrassing things. I am lucky because I can talk about anything. I don't know if this is because of my nature or because I grew up in a large family of girls and we always discussed things. My mother who had 10 children was shy and wouldn't discuss embarrassing things with us.

[bonnie]

I am pretty much the same as you df. medical problem input can be very helpfull.

I remember when i hit my teens, being the 0nly girl with 5 brothers my dad said to my mum, you deal with bonnie, i will deal with the boys.
Mum explained all what to do when i started my monthlys.
When i woke up one morning i found i had started. What did i do?? run to my dad. Dad said go tell mum go tell mum.
After that i would talk about any medical problems with mum or dad.
Kayleigh is the same, she will ask either of us anything she wants to know.
I suppose its the way we are brought up.

[Clunkshift]

Bonnie,

Some thoughts on your taboo subject.

men suffer too but don't talk about it.
I find it amazing that some things are taboo subjects, especially among men. Everyone knows what preparation H is and what Germaloids are but no-one ever has haemorroids and only ever mention them in ridiculous jokes.

When men get older, muscles sag, tubes slacken and valves leak - even without actual prostate problems. this means that the schoolboy's couple of drips afterwards becomes more like an egg-cup full but due to the macho idea that real men use urinals, and no-one stands at one after the sound of flow ceases - or it seems like soliciting... only wimps like me use the cubicles for unhurried relief and a chance to adjust dress afterwards in private.

Similarly most men wear underwear that they think makes them look either macho or sexy and forget its real purposes - support, comfort and absorbency. Boxers don't support anything and can cause injury when twisted and jockeys and thongs need careful consideration as to "fitness for purpose". I am actually quite jealous of women being able to slip in an absorbent liner and dispose of same at the next comfort call.
You cannot imagine how much effect ambient temperature has on leaky plumbing which is outside of main body warmth, especially in winter time, but are there thermal pants for winter? no.

Clunk x

PS recent comments on toilet mats were noted and agreed with - standing boys have no sense of aim or hygiene - but rising females drip too...
dit non plus....

[bonnie]

I totaly agree with you clunk. Even women dont think about men having these problems.

I take it that you dont wear a posing pouch then!!!!!

Martin hates using public toilets, he says they are very unhygenic and like yourself he uses cubicles as he finds he has more privacy.
Have you found the added problems of when using public toilets, they are forever running out of loo paper and paper towels.

Only a couple of weeks ago i nearly put a shoulder out whist doing a handstand up against the hand heater because they had run out of loo roll.
I have heard clunk that there are pads available on the market for men with bladder problems though.

[keepersdaughter]

Bonnie, I nearly tinkled myself laughing at the image of you doing a handstand up the drier. :eek: :D :D :D

[bonnie]

;) Keepers, this is one gal that doesn't shake and dry:D:D

Sometimes we have to take matters into our own hans so to speak. no pun meant clunk.:)