arrivals and departures

[eleanor2]

you stand there all excited.waiting for your loved one to turn the corner of the arrivals lounge. you run up and give them an hug. grab little un and smother him in kisses.you all walk off to the car laughing and talking.thats arrivals.... now for departures. you hang about as long as you can with your loved ones. go for breakfast look around the shops. slowly everyone gets a bit quieter then morose. as you walk towards the departure lounge. you kiss and hug. wave and try to hold back tears. you run forward for another hug and kiss.then you wave right till the last moment.once out of sight you can let your tear fall as you turn to go home. daughters just gone back home to france. any-one else find arrivals and departures emotional.

[Crocus]

Hi Eleanor, that's bad eh? Hope you are fine now? It's two different emotions - one's elation and happiness, the other is sad and tearful. In the past when we had to leave to go the airport with boys staying behind, I'm in such a state that at that moment I'd rather just stay home! I know it's going to happen again when we leave in a few weeks' time. Won't let them notice me being upset, they'll just say: "Oh no Mom, don't cry!!"
Fortunately the "babysitters" are very good long time friends of ours - actually me and her moved on from being friends to being very close sisters. We've known one another for 24 years, even before my boys were born. The boys love them as well.

Being a mum is all about emotion. You either happy, sad, cross, scared and nervous. But always loving, no matter what. Hug from me. :)

[Katelb]

Crocus, you have such a lovely way of summing things up,your boys are lucky to have such a super Mum.You are absolutely right,being a Mum does involve so many emotions,most of them ,thankfully, happy but with an occassional mix of sad,fear, cross but always unconditional love.

Hope you are feeling a little happier now eleanor,it's always hard saying 'au revoir 'because it's never good bye is it,you can look forward to the next visit now whichever way round it is. We are all here to cheer you up.

[Crocus]

I think being a mom with everything attached to this "status" is a learning curve for us women as well. Before I had first Jaco (who passed away) and the the twinnies, I was a bit impatient, but boy, I had to change very fast! As they went through their stages of growing up, I went through those stages with them, thinking what on earth to do next! I'm quite sure most moms on this site will know what I'm talking about. My mom used to say that when your child hurts, you hurt. When your child's happy, you are happy. Of course kids don't even have the slightest notion of all this emotions mums go through. And its good I think, because it may cause them to feel guilty, or whatever. So on the surface Kate, you don't show all these emotions, but comes tonight in your bed, then the tears flow with happines, or whatever the case may be. That's how we are made. Goodness me, now I've preached like mad. Sorreeee!!!

[sheddie]

I knew you would feel it Eeee like we all do, I blub everytime daughter goes home, smile and wave then turn and the tears flow.Strange how i used to tuck her up in bed with mumfy then one night she tucked me up with him - bit of a role reversal eh?Bound to feel strange but we're here for you and you must be your best to help with the fireworks.

[eleanor2]

i am o.k now sheddy thanks.daughter got hubby to take a photo of me and her.under the departure sign.she bought me a beautiful photo frame about a mothers love in french written around the side. when she sends me the photo it will go in that frame. we will beat this departure thing.

[Crocus]

Hi, a lovely gesture!

[dinger]

I couldnt have put an explanation of being a mum any better than the ways they have been put here .We are all the same are'nt we .

[eleanor2]

i already have my arrival in france planned for next year.at least its good to look forward to arrivals. you'r right dinger what emotions we go through dont we.

[Crocus]

That's exactly what amazes me so much! We live 'worlds' apart in different countries, have different traditions, etc. But once we start to know each other, learn from one another, cry and laugh with one another, one realises that, as you said Dinger, we are so much the same.

[dinger]

It has been all departures and arrivals in my family lately as one has gone away another has just arrived back .I have a job to keep up with them at times.My daughter came back from New York yesterday don't know who is off somewhere next.

[Crocus]

How's her neck and shoulders doing Dinger?

[dinger]

Still very painfull she says but managed to enjoy her holiday

[Crocus]

On my "injection" thread I mentioned what kind of medicine the dr. has given me for my foot. It really does seem to help. If it's inflammation that she's suffering from, perhaps you could have a look and explain to her dr?