Pride Of Britain

[dinger]

I watched this last night and it brought tears to my eyes .Where do they get this amazing courage from. I have seen it in my own daughter a girl who so feared illness and was terrified of death. They seem to be blessed with the most special gift at the worst time when fate has cast them the cruelest deed in thier lives and are able to give so much to help others without bitterness.The heart doctor who has saved hundreds of lives said he did'nt deserve the award and the children who are so brave .I admire them all so much and am full of respect for every one of them.

[eleanor2]

but the adverts said a lot.it makes you feel humble doesn't it.proud to of your countrymen.ladies and children.

[Oola]

Yes absolutely. I always have to hold back to the tears with those sorts of things. I find people like that amazing, but then I think everyone has a core survival instinct and it might extend to other people.

I think times of great hardship and staring into the face of fear has a way of unravelling the superfluous things in life and bringing home the bare basics of our existence, purposes and reasoning. Strangelt enough in these situations I think you see the absolute beauty and core of a person's being.

dinger I can to some extent understand why your daughter might have felt so terrified, but I hope that she is now completely at peace. Death is such a natural part of life and really in the end it's one of the easiest things we can do, like getting out of one car and getting into another. I think the closer you get to it the less it becomes a fear of the unknown and understanding that it's just another journey that you have to take, and that inevitably it's a state of being that we'll all reach in some way or another - in a strange way I find that very comforting! I don't know how we change or what we become after this life but I'm pretty sure that it's less complicated, more peaceful and the soul lives on in a way we can't truly comprehend. I think both you, your family and your daughter are incredibly brave and strong souls :) What you've done in her memory is a really beautiful thing, you should always always be proud of it.

[dinger]

I found your words very true Oola I do think when faced with the worst things possible a strength we never knew we had shines through.and I thank you for your kind comments .

[Crocus]

Hi Dinger, it is so true what you said about the strength we have when faced with a difficult situation. We were on our way to the specialist for an appointment for Jaco, when he passed away in the car. Our GP were there the Tuesday evening and again on the Wednesday morning, but his heart and blood pressure were fine. It was just his blood sugar levels that were high. But at that moment when I noticed that he is going, I was just so strong! I held on to his hand the whole way (we had to drive about 150 km to see the specialist) He just opened his eyes (he had beautiful blue eyes) looked at me, and passed away. I was so strong at that moment because I knew I couldn't go into a panic - he needed me to be calm and there for him while hubby was driving as fast as he could possibly allowed himself, but not recklessly. We were'nt far from the dr. at that stage and just carried on driving. It was only the evening when we had to leave him there in the hospital and come back home that it hit us. That was just so heart breakingly hard! And to get home and to tell the twins what had happened. But the strength that I received to do that last bit for him, to hold his hand and to say I will always love him, that strength is above us.

[Katelb]

Crocus and dinger,you are both incredible ladies from whom I for one have learnt a great deal about the loss of a young person.I am equally sure you are both the stronger for having had to face such tragedy.I think that your understanding of life is now greater than it was before,and you have both found something positive out of each of your situations.
Oola,you should have an honorary degree in philosophy;your description and comforting words seem to stem from a wisdom beyond your years,you have described how you see
an afterlife in such an enlightened way,and I'm sure you are right even though it is beyond our earthly comprehension.

[Oola]

Thanks katelb :)

Crocus...what can I say? Incredible strength and poise at a time when your son possibly needed you the most. It could be the hardest thing you could ever face and you did it with such control and I'm sure he would have felt your love for him as he passed on. I truly think it's worse for the people left behind that have to work through the loss, but again that suffering and pain is all a part of living and we all feel it at some point. Although many of us have different beliefs, I'm guessing that you must find comfort in the fact that one day you'll be in the same place as your son...and that's not such a sad thing :) I just find your strength of character incredible and all your boys are lucky to have such a wonderful mum.

[Crocus]

Hi Oola, thanks for your understanding! You really have a sensitivity and understanding above your age! I do find comfort in being in the same place as my son one day, that's true! You know Oola, something else I would so much like to mention here, if I may. I had this dream just before last Christmas. There was a knock at the front door, I opened, and there my son was standing, asking to come in! He came through the door, walked straight to the chair we he used to sit, and said" Mum, I'm very happy here with Jesus, and I play a lot with my best friend. Don't worry!" The next thing I was wide awake! That gave me so much added comfort! His best friend at school died about 16 years ago (also retarded, she had a stroke after being born 3 months premature). They were the best of friends. He was very sad when she died. For as long as I live, I will never, ever forget this dream I had. It was a short dream, but so real.

Thanks so much that I could share this! :)

[Crocus]

Hi Kate, I definitely are stronger! To loose a child is ...... I have no words to describe it. Thanks for what you have said! :)

[dinger]

We both know this feeling crocus and as you say there are no words to describe the loss of a child. I too believe we will meet again and I also believe they are forever young this is how we remember them. Its true we are strong but with a forever ache to carry inside .Oola your understanding for one so young is a gift you have.

[Crocus]

Hi Kate, I definitely are stronger! To loose a child is ...... I have no words to describe it. Thanks for what you have said! :)

[sheddie]

Oola your understanding is an absolute credit to you and one wonders how someone so young can find just the right words.But I'm sure dinger and crocus have found some comfort in your words.

[Crocus]

Most definitely I did, and confirmation of what I'd known and felt as well.

[Katelb]

Crocus,what a wonderful dream and such a comfort to you,and ,in a sense,almost positive proof that your son rarely leaves your side.

I have never lost a child but i did have two miscarriages befor my daughter was born;some years back,a spiritualist friend asked me if had lost any children because there was a boy and a girl standing either side of me,the friend said'the boy in particular never leaves your side and they both play a prominent but unseen part in your life'. I must admit I had not thought about them growing up in another world,but she is not the only person to have told me of their presence and I feel very protected by both my earthly daughter and her unseen siblings.

[Crocus]

Hi Kate, so sorry to hear about your miscarriages! Sometimes in my mind I hear him cough, sneeze or even talk and laugh. Those sounds stay in one's mind I think, because they so part of your life. It's very interesting about what you said about the presence of the boy and girl next to you!

[sheddie]

crocus I think you're such a brave lady and I feel priveliged to know you. X